Episode 35: Stop Moralizing ADHD: Why ‘Try Harder’ Is a Trap

Kendall Delamont

With Kendall Delamont

If you've ever been told you're "lazy," "not trying hard enough," or "just lack discipline"... yeah, this one's for you. I sat down with ADHD educator Kendall Delamont for a conversation about what ADHD really is and all the bullshit it's not. We're talking about why ADHD isn't a moral failing or a time management problem, why the internet's dopamine obsession is mostly wrong, and why generic ADHD advice is basically set up to make you feel like shit.

We get into the real stuff:

• Why ADHD traits get turned into character judgments ("if you really cared, you wouldn't be late")

• Why systems stop working — and why that's completely normal, not evidence you're broken

• Self-diagnosis: when it's helpful, where it gets messy, and why you need follow-through

• Supplements, wellness grifters, and the role of confirmation bias

• Parenting ADHD kids when you're ADHD yourself: lead with education, ditch the shame

• Living in the "messy middle": building systems that work most of the time, because perfection is fake

  
  

The bottom line?  ADHD isn't one thing. It's a your brain thing — and moving forward means actual education, self-compassion, and systems designed for real human brains, not fantasy ones.

Find Kendall: theadhdtoolkit.com | @theadhdtoolkit

Bio: 

Kendall Delamont holds a B.A. in Behavioural Sciences, a B.Ed., and certification as an ADHD Educator. She spent 8 years teaching in the classroom before creating The ADHD Toolkit– a series of in-depth, research-based courses designed to support people with ADHD and the people who love them.

Thanks to her own ADHD diagnosis, Kendall brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. She's passionate about equipping others with practical tools designed to work with the ADHD brain rather than heaping on shame, guilt, and ineffective viral trends. 

Kendall also empowers over 200k followers across her social media platforms with practical strategies, relatable experience shares, and ever-advancing scientific research.

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