Episode 16: Rethinking Desire, Orgasms & the ADHD Brain

Dr. Laurie Mintz

With Dr. Laurie Mintz

If sex has ever felt like a confusing chore, a pressure-filled performance, or just… not designed with your brain in mind, you are not alone. In this episode, Dr. Leann Borneman sits down with bestselling author and sex therapist Dr. Laurie Mintz (Becoming Cliterate, A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex) for a raw, hilarious, and deeply validating convo about orgasms, desire, and a little on how ADHD + sensory differences can shape our sexual experiences.

We tackle:

• The orgasm gap and why it’s not your fault

• The myth of "foreplay" and why it’s time to rewrite the script

• Vibrators, high-vibration receptors, and the neuroscience of pleasure

• ADHD overstimulation, sex paralysis, and the magic of planning without pressure

• Responsive vs. spontaneous desire—and how most of us were never taught the difference

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Whether you’ve faked it, avoided it, or felt broken for not wanting it—this episode flips the script and reminds you: pleasure should work for your brain, not against it.

Listen in and give yourself permission to reimagine sex on your terms.

Bio:

Dr. Laurie Mintz is an Emeritus Professor at the University of Florida teaching Human Sexuality to hundreds of undergraduates yearly. She has published over 60 scholarly works and authored two popular press books: Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It  and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex.  Mintz is a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist in private practice. She is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association, indicating her work has had a positive national influence on the field of psychology. In 2023, she was named one of Forbes “50 over 50” women innovators.

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