Feel disconnected, dysregulated, or just unsure how to get in sync with your partner? This ADHD-friendly bedroom check-in helps couples slow down, tune in, and build connection through curiosity, not pressure.
Created by Dr. Leann Borneman, a Clinical Sexologist, Certified Sex Therapist and ADHD expert, this guided activity supports couples in navigating sensory needs, mental load, executive function challenges, and intimacy dynamics, all through an affirming, neurodivergent-informed lens.
 
Perfect for:
• ADHD couples wanting to reconnect
• Intimacy moments that feel “off” or confusing
• Building emotional safety before sex
• Creating new approaches around presence and pleasure
 
What’s Inside:
✔️ Step-by-step check-in prompts (regulation, mental load, sensory filters, communication & more)
✔️ Partner reflection questions
✔️ Sensory & regulation tools list
✔️ Guidance on how to use it, and why it works
✔️ Beautiful, printable 6-page PDF bundle
 
Use it together before intimacy, weekly for reconnection, or anytime life feels too noisy to drop into connection.
 
This check-in is part of a larger body of ADHD-informed intimacy work I’m building to better support couples in navigating desire, regulation, and connection, especially when traditional scripts fall short. It’s designed to be the beginning of a new, more compassionate conversation around what desire can look like in ADHD relationships.
 
Disclaimer:
This resource is not a substitute for individual or couples therapy. It does not account for all factors that may influence your relationship, desire, or emotional safety, including trauma, mental health conditions, or systemic barriers. Please use this check-in as a supportive tool, not a diagnostic or prescriptive measure. When in doubt, consult with a licensed therapist.